(You do not need to be on the spectrum to enter this giveaway- knowing someone on the Spectrum is perfectly good enough!)Well, everything has arrived finally for the Giveaway I’ve been wanting to have this month. Yippee!!! Hurray!!! Wooo Yeah! And I think it’s a very good time for it to arrive. Especially since I just had an incident with my new doctor yesterday dealing with her stereotypical view of what an Aspie should look like, I suppose. Let me tell you about that and then move on to the giveaway.
Yesterday, while going through my first time visit with this new doctor whom I’m hoping like crazy will be able to help me (she thinks I may have Lyme Disease), she was going through my paperwork. I always put down that I’m an Aspie. I do not see the point in not saying it. Why should I try and hide behind the guise of Neurotypical when I am not nor wish to be?
Well, she got to that part of my sheet and said: “Asperger’s Syndrome? Really??? You have Asperger’s Syndrome?” I told her: “Why, yes, I do.” And she looked at me again and stared at my face- something that makes me incredibly uncomfortable, and then looked up and down my body twice. It was terrifically upsetting and I was very angry. I did not know what she was expecting. Was she waiting for me to flap my hands, pace back and forth, have difficulty answering questions, rock in my seat, have a meltdown? Perhaps she was expecting to see a horn growing out of my head... What the heck was that all about? After a few minutes I realized what she was thinking but did not say out loud. “But you look so normal.” (Well, what am I supposed to look like?) I’ve heard that before from other doctors and “friends” and so on. I've seen the look and studied the reaction. She simply did not think through how she was responding to me and what messages she was sending out.
Now, understand, that when I’m stressed I tend to either get very tense and sit very still (and I was doing that yesterday) or go kind of limp and move slowly and sluggishly (with a little bit of this thrown in), or I get very upset and have to leave wherever I am so that I can either collect myself again to be calm in the situation or just plain get the heck out of there.
I did not react. I could not react and was not sure what to do or say at the time. I needed time to get out of there and think it through because I was too angry, and I also didn’t want attention to be drawn from why I was there. I was there because I am in severe pain and in severe exhaustion. But believe you me, when I go back I will have written a very thorough, calm, and enlightening letter for her to read about myself and about Asperger’s and the Spectrum and why it is so important for people to be accepting and not toss people into categories or stereotypes they seem to have cemented in their brains.
I am a human being. I am a woman. I am an Aspie. I am Neurodiverese, and there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with that. Those kinds of reactions, those are wrong and done out of ignorance with little thought to the feelings of the person they are directing themselves at. She upset me, offended me, and hurt my feelings pretty danged good with her careless reaction. And I’m supposed to be insensitive because I'm on the Spectrum? Give me a break. I want to spread some education and acceptance around big time right now. So...
On to the Giveaway. I have a few fun little things for the giveaway, including a mouse pad, a few pins, a sticker and a magnet for your fridge or filing cabinet or whatever.
Here’s what’s in the giveaway and here’s what you need to do to enter it:
(Pardon the look of my very beaten up desk- it's incredibly old)
There is a mouse pad that reads: Seeing the World from a Different Angle, A sticker that has a ribbon that reads: Autism Awareness, three pins and a magnet:
What to do to enter the giveaway?
First, you must be in the Continental U.S. or Canada. Sorry, but shipping stuff over seas is so expensive.
Second: You have to be a current or new Follower of Take a Left at the Moon.
Third: You must leave a comment under this post telling me a reason why Autism/Spectrum Acceptance is important to you.
Giveaway ends on April 30th! Enter by then!
But, if you want extra chances to win, you can:
Post about this on your blog! You can use my Giveaway Button:
With a link back to this post! 1 extra entry
You can put my giveaway photo button in your sidebar with a link back to this post. 1 extra entry
Let me know if you do those things right in the same comment you write to enter the Giveaway and I'll make sure you get your extra entries in the hat when it comes time to draw the name of the winner(s).
Oh! Did I mention there will also be two more winners? Well, yes there will be. :D
Second Name Drawn will receive:
An Autism Acceptance Sticker and a Pin.
Third Name Drawn will receive:
An Autism Acceptance Sticker
Spread the word and Acceptance! Let people know about this giveaway and invite them to share with me and the other folks who read this blog why Acceptance is so Important to them!
I want Acceptance because I long for a day where I won't be looked at funny and laughed at when I talk to myself or Stim in public. I want my son to be Accepted for who he is instead of having to pretend to be someone else for fear of mistreatment, bullying, teasing, or prejudice. I long for a day when I do not have to ever read again about another senseless murder of someone on the Spectrum, or an abuse case of an Autistic or Aspie child or adult. I would love to read happy stories about kids being Accepted and Loved and not deprived, hurt, ignored or feared, or pushed to be different than whom they are. I want to have the world think it's something wonderful that there are differences and understand that people who are Neurodiverse bring a lot of amazing things into this world: Art, Music, Poetry, Entertainment, Animal and Child Welfare, Environmental Awareness, Scientific Discoveries, Technological Advances, Empathy, Openness, and I could go on and on and on and on.
So, tell me, why is Acceptance Important to You?
***I know that some folks are offended by ribbons... and I do not wish to offend anyone. The Autism Acceptance Ribbon to me doesn't mean a cure... it means a cause. There is most definitely cause to have Acceptance.